I was asked by a member of my team how to be less turbulent and more in control of ourselves and not be influenced by external factors as a way to be in control of our lives, so I explained my way of perceiving life around us and how to be selective and in control with how we respond to our surroundings
Firstly, I explained that you need to perceive yourself as having 4 inner personas that dwell inside of you.
The First is the inner child, the tantrum child the crying the nagging child that represents the primitive response to external factors and pushes us to do things that are not calculated and more childlike in their response. Even if the response you took to those external factors seems on the surface adult-like, but deep down they are primordial and childlike at their very core.
The Second person is that of the Wiseman, an ancient soul that is mostly quiet and silent and only utters words of wisdom and analyses and thinks silently and understands the symbolism of the external surroundings and what they mean what the underlying convictions and possible motives are.
The Third person is the Advisor to the Wiseman; who tells the Wiseman any possible information or possible backstory to the actions in front of us. Giving much-needed insight into the driving forces at hand, thus understanding where they are coming from and us that for the strategic and most appropriate response.
The Fourth person is the Cameraman, bringing you a live feed of your exterior presentation of body language and composure.
You should note that the Child is the youngest and most raw of personas. The Wiseman is the eldest and the person you should embody to be a more successful version of yourself. The Advisor is a person who brings you insight into other perspectives your current short-sighted self is blind to and triggers a train of thoughts once you embody this persona. The Cameraman brings you how people perceive you and this will give you the trait of self-awareness and mindfulness.
Once understood, this mindset and methodology will make you the successful one in any interaction and give you the upper hand.
One must practice this to master the speed in which it takes one to go through the emotions, perceptions, and backstories to arrive at the moment of the Wiseman’s proclamation of his words of infinite wisdom and knowledge.