The “charismatic air” of narcissists– from their flashy attire, to their self-assured behaviors, to their charming glances, to their witty humor– often makes a big first impression. At the same time, people seem to be really good at accurately perceiving narcissism in others based on minimal information (even just physical appearance is usually enough of a cue to accurately perceive narcissism). Which raises an interesting question: why are narcissists– which
April 29, 2024
How to find yourself in this crazy world and discover who you are
Fair to say you’re reading this article cocooned in your home under lockdown or self-isolation. Unfortunately, it looks like we will be hibernating in seclusion for a while. But social isolation doesn’t have to be all bad. When you think about it, it’s an incredible opportunity to learn more about ourselves. Because when we remove ourselves from the social context of our lives, we are better able to see how
April 25, 2024
Stop Trying to Change Yourself
You can’t change yourself, so don’t even try. I know that’s not what the infomercials and self-help seminars tell you. But fuck it. They’re wrong. You can’t change. Like a thirsty man in a desert chasing a mirage, or a fat man peering into an empty fridge—there’s nothing there. So stop chasing it. Go do something else instead. Why can’t you change yourself? Because the whole idea of change is